Yesterday, I went to my cousin's bridal shower. It was a miserable day here...rained...poured...ALL DAY LONG. The festivities were supposed to be held out side at her aunt's home and of course the weather didn't cooperate, so everything was moved inside. I don't know how many people were there but it seemed like a million or so. That's neither here or there.... Anyway, the shower was a surprise. Why do people insist on having surprise showers? The bride and her fiance are renovating their house. Basically, spending every spare second trying to have it ready by there wedding next month. I don't know what the plan was to get her to the shower was but, she decided it was too miserable out and she was going to work on her house. Finally, her fiance told her about the shower. She comes over and is a mess...A MESS! Wearing huge sweats and a tee covered in paint and dirt, her hair was piled on top of her head in a Medusa like fashion, make up from the night before smudged on her face. She was mortified. Then she had to greet all her guest and open presents looking like a fool. How embarrassing for her? I don't mean to be harsh...but, why do people think bridal/baby showers need to be surprises? You know you are going to have one. What are your thoughts...to surprise or not?